FIND YOUR HAPPINESS BY YOURSELF

We often say we won't to be independent and not dependent on others. But what do we actually mean by being dependent on others? I mean, you wake up by yourself, you eat food by using your own hands, you use your own feet to walk on the streets; so are you actually dependent on anyone else?

We depend on others emotionally and mentally. We built up some expectations from people. And the dependency on having expectations from others only leads tot he path of being disappointed and hurt. We all want to feel comforted, loved, and cared. To attain this affection, we are always trying to make others happy. Psychologically, we treat others the way we want to be treated. And when we are doing our very best to make other people happy, we also build up certain expectations from those people believing they would also try to make us happy. And which is not always how it turns out. So when our friends, family or loved ones don't treat us the way we treat them, we end up getting hurt, feeling lonely, unloved. Does that mean we should stop caring for other people? And a logical answer to that is "NO". Be who you are, if you are a kind human being to care for other people, don't let their behaviour change yours.

We feel the way we feel. And the desire to have a rush of dopamine, endorphins, serotonin, and oxytocin is not going to come from putting others first. It is time that you care about yourself first. Try being nice and generous to your own soul. Well you know, here is the trick to find happiness and not end up being hurt by people:

1. Say no to having expectations from others. Rather have expectations from your own self.

2. Be kind, generous, caring, and loving to yourself first.

3. Choose your own path. Make your own decisions. Don't consider the other person as a deciding factor.

May be some people would appreciate you for it or some will say you have changed. Change is a part of life. We all go through it and its for good. The world doesn't revolve around other people, stop being the side kick or punching bag for others. Stand up for your own self, and do things that makes you happy.